Whenever you hear this question...
“ Who are you?”
does it seem ambiguous and overwhelming to answer?
Whenever I’m faced with that question, I get mentally aroused because the curiosity of finding out excites me and I know how to go about finding out. I have the perfect tool to help reduce the anxiety of understanding more about who you are.
I’m really attracted to the self-exploration processes because I know how beneficial it is to understanding who you are and how that shifts into decision making in regards to relationships. When you have that sense of clarity, you’re more likely to engage in situations and relationships that enhance and improve the quality of your life.
I want to share this insightful tool with you called Archetype. This is one self-examination tool, I use when I feel a disconnect from the internal side of who I am. Archetype focuses on behavior patterns that motivate everything you do and I believe this tool can support you along your relationship journey.
One of my past downfalls in relationships has been not having a strong sense of self. Because of that I didn’t make conscious choices based on who I was and what I wanted. Instead, my choices were made around what others wanted and needed. I used to go along with it and in the end that approach never worked me. This can show up in any type of relationship that we deem important and for this reason I encourage you to always stay connected to who you are.
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Doesn’t that arouse your curiosity about what your archetypes are? I hope so.
How I've benefited from knowing my archetype:
I want to share with you one example of how discovering and studying my archetypes has helped me modify my behavior pattern. Hopefully, this will inspire you to set aside some time to practice this self-exploration technique.
My strongest archetype is a Caregiver and it has been very helpful for my relationship between my son and I. This archetype manifested in my life because my son has 3 chronic illnesses; which was diagnosed between the ages of 3 months thru 1yrs old. He’s now 10yrs old (just to give you an idea of how long I’ve been a caregiver). It was something that was unexpected, however I had to automatically get into caregiver mode with no prior knowledge on how to create balance between taking care of my son and myself simultaneously.
What I learned from understanding my archetype:
- How to be mindful of how much help I should give my son and the importance of it. I had to make sure to avoid having him become too dependent on me and instead work towards reaching his own independence. Before I used to practically complete a task for him because I didn’t want him to struggle through it, but now I’ve learned to pull back and let him wrestle through it no matter how long it would take or how frustrated he got. I always made sure I explained to him, why I shifted my behavior so the change wouldn’t seem like it’s coming from a unsupportive place. I had to adjust my overly helpful ways and apply some tough love, which was hard as hell, but I knew it’s for his own good. After trying this approach several times, he realized he can finish an activity on his own and it increased his confidence, gave him a sense of independence and I was able to focus on other things.
- Secondly I had to work at not over extending myself to the point of draining my energy with nothing left for myself. I needed to make sure I had enough strength and eagerness to handle my affairs and focus on my desires instead of putting in on the back burner. Throughout this shift; I’ve learned to practice self-care by way of making sure I have “me” time and that has made a major difference in maintaining my sanity. And when I’m feeling rested I’m better prepared to fulfill my caregiving duties.
In regards to embracing my archetype as a caregiver, I’ve been able to apply life skills I’ve developed such as emotional resilience, inner strength and effective listening skills into my work as a relationship coach.
Having a clear understanding of who I am at my core allows me to adjust behaviors that are not serving me; in order to create healthier relationships with others, like my son in this case.
If this resonates with you, take the quiz and explore your 3 Archetypes. I would love to get to know more about my readers.
Don’t forget to share your 3 in the comment section below.
If you’re curious about my other 2 archetypes, this link tells you about all 3 of them. We might have some things in common: http://www.archetypes.com/me/
With Love & Gratitude,