I had an opportunity to hang out with The Cool Kids Morning Show (by Pop Life Radio). We talked about my relationship story and how it lead to writing my book (Releasing That Relationship: Gaining Clarity from the Heartbreak of a Breakup or Divorce That Nearly Broke Your Spirit) . The interview is now on Soundcloud and easy for you to listen to: bit.ly/SoundcloudPopLifeinterview (By the way...the show is an hour long and my interview starts 30 mins in, just in case you want to get straight to it.)
What we talked about:
- One of the main reasons why my marriage didn’t work
- One of the things I did to save my marriage
- What I learned from that experience
- A simple practice I used to help me gain clarity
Keep reading because I share my 3 reasons why you should own your story and a really cool resource to support you in writing your own book.
It wasn’t always easy for me to talk about why my marriage didn’t work in public. It was uncomfortable to admit to others that I” failed” in love, made mistakes by ignoring red flags and other moments of weakness. I could remember not too long after things ended, how emotional I would get when the topic came up. In mid sentence, I would get so choked up and I’d have to pause because I felt like crying. I had a lot of fear and shame around my story but talking about it helped me to heal and move forward.
What fears do you have around owning your story?
Now I feel more at ease and free to share my experience because I’ve learned to own my story. I eventually decided to use my own journey as a means to help other women along their journey. I thought, well, if anyone hears my story, maybe it will make a difference in their relationship struggle or make them think, 'Well, I never really thought about the option of letting go a toxic relationship.”
3 Reasons why you should own your story
- You find your voice: You realize that it’s all part of a journey toward the person you want to become and you start to embrace it all. You let go of the shame and gain this sense of freedom of not worrying about what other people think because it is what it is.
- You get on the path towards healing: You no longer feel like a victim and instead start to embraces the survivor mindset. You shed those negative feelings attached to the story, which opens you up to unpacking emotional baggage.
- You will gain clarity on how to do things better moving forward: You discover what’s important to you, what you really want, what went wrong, what went right? and you question did you handle everything the best way you could? etc… Once you get clear about the answers to these questions, you go about things in a completely different way.
Your story matters even if it’s not something dramatic. Exploring it, reveals your truth, helps you discover significant life lessons you're suppose to learn and it supports your growth as a person. I’m not suggesting that you start telling your story to anyone and everyone. But, as quoted by Brene Brown don’t let your story define you by denying it, discover ways to own it.
Take some time and space to dig into these questions: What’s your relationship story? Are you moving forward? Why? Why not? Do you own your story?
One more thing...
As you can see my story I lead me to coaching women around relationship challenges and writing a book. If you feel like your story can be turned into a book idea, I have a great resource for you. My fellow radical self-expression coaches were instrumental in helping me birth my book and they have a 8 program that can help you do the same. Click the link for more info: http://www.radicalselfie.com/8weekpeak-now/
With Love & Gratitude,