How are you? and How the heck is 2018 going for you so far?
By the end of the January, the optimistic energy we had in December to create a better 2018 tends to wear off some. Because life gets in the way and it's so easy to keep doing what's comfortable. But I want to make sure you don't fall into that trap. I know I had in the past.
So, I'm nudging you to stay the course and keep your relationship intentions going strong throughout the year.
I'm way more intentional about shaking things up and changing how I want to experience life in all areas.(Photos are at the end, showing how I have been staying the course so far)
If you are serious about making 2018 the year that your relationship changes for the better, the end of the month is a perfect time to reflect on the intentions that you've set and pasted on your vision board. Taking the time to check-in will help you stay committed and course correct if you are aware of any barriers preventing you from making changes.
Ask yourself 2 simple questions:
- Have I taken any daily action steps to truly work towards the intentions that I set for my relationship?
- If not what's getting in the way?
Once you are aware of the barriers, figure out how to move past it. Maybe you need an accountability partner, or personal development tools, or access to resources or more time to self etc. Whatever it is, get clear about what you need to do next to stay the course.
We only have 5 days left in January, so that tells you time waits for no one. You don't want to look up and it's Dec.2018 and you're still having those "not so good" experiences in your relationship, am I right?
As you know nothing magical happens when the year changes, you have to actually take action and change something. Whether it's your mindset, your personal space or one habit, you have to do the work.
Here's what I did differently this year when I set my intentions, I focused more on the feeling(s) I want to cultivate. I thought about what didn't feel good and really drained me emotionally in 2017 and decided on how I want to feel instead. Once I figured that out, it was easier for me to know what things I need to either include, removed or modify as I navigate life to cultivate those feelings.
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And...don't forget I have my INNER-COURSE™ class available if your relationship is in conflict and you need to take a step back to develop a daily practice for emotional wellness here's a resource for you: http://bit.ly/teachableinnercourse2
How I'm staying the course for 2018
1st collage: I want my work to emerge from having conversations that matter. So I had a meet-up and we talked about emotional wellness in relationships and the barriers that are faced when asking our partner to fulfill our emotional needs. I realized was the asking is not happening. That's another conversation to be had. Everyone that attended received a journal and list of resources to support them in starting a daily practice of emotional wellness.
2nd Collage: I was hired to host a vision board brunch and it was great. I asked everyone to think about how that goal they want to accomplish will make them "feel" so that they can allow the feeling to guide them and they really enjoyed that approach to creating their vision board.
Back by popular demand, I will be hosting another one in March for a new group of ladies. Very excited about that.
3rd Collage: I eventually completed my vision board and placed it in my sacred space. Where you place your vision board is very vital to how effective it will be in guiding you to take action. I personally need a daily and visual reminder because it evokes feels and thoughts that lead to me taking action. As I mention I focused on "feeling" words this time around.
With Love & Light