Love is a beautiful thing when it’s not being forced, pressured or controlled by anyone who says they love you. That’s why I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day like most. I like to shift the focus from seeking and receiving love from a more internal space and not just externally.
Self-love is such a broad and trendy saying now, I don’t want the true essence of it to get lost. It can mean so many things, when someone says you should love yourself and not knowing how can discourage someone from practicing self-love. So I created #14ActsofSelLove challenge from last year and it’s still relevant today. For 14 days there are actions you can take to practice self-love.
You can get more details on how to live out every act and inspirational quotes to keep you committed to the act of self-love:
- You can go back to my blog post: Click HERE
- You can also check out my Pinterest board dedicated to 14 Acts: http://bit.ly/14selfloveacts
Because we are being pressured into expressing our love for one another, and it becomes this requirement to measure our love, it comes off as insincere and less meaningful to me. We also lose our love for self in the process.
What would feel better to you, an authentic or commercialize expression of love?
But nevertheless, it doesn’t stop the feeling and the word “LOVE” from being on your mind today in some way, shape or form. But I’m curious to know in what way though.
There are several ways things tend to turn out:
- Someone is going to lengths to express their love for their partner. Whether it’s a proposal, dinner at a fancy restaurant, giving or wearing sexy lingerie, giving a box of chocolates etc… If this is you, you’re probably very happy and feels a sense of security that you partner loves you because they did good with expressing their love.
- Then there are those who are in a relationship and they don’t get any expression of love and that leaves them to questions do their partner love them enough. Or what they were given is not what they expected and it doesn’t truly say “I love you” So they are disappointed, then there’s drama.
- Then there are those who are not in a relationship and the feeling of loneliness intensifies because they are reminded of not having a significant other.
The latter 2 i s what concerns me. It triggers more of a negative feeling from something that’s suppose to cultivate love. If Valentine’s Day is creating a negative feeling for you, it’s worth embracing “LOVE” from a different space. So think about which act of self-love resonates with you and when it feels right, practice one act after another until it becomes second nature.
Don’t forget to utilize these resources to support your new commitment to Loving Yourself More.
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