My goal with this exercise is to help you generate awareness around what’s not working in your relationship, gain clarity about what you do want, then explore ways that will help you get what you want from a clearer perspective.
At the end of it all, my hope for you is that this process will give you the courage to make choices in alignment with creating a better & healthier relationship.
When you make a mental & emotional shift, it’s going to feel unrealistic because your reality is completely opposite from what you want. However; the point is to focus on what you do want. This will help you make daily choices in the direction of what you desire.
First I want to ask you a question...Knowing what you know now about love and life, would you want to experience your romantic relationship the same way; if you had a chance to do it over?
If your answer is “no”, I want to remind you of your free will to change the things that are not working out the way you hoped. It’s unfair for anyone to stay stuck & unhappy, especially when you have a choice not to.
If you don’t have a lot of clarity or you can’t decide what you’d like to do next in your relationship; there are steps you can take to help you move from uncertainty & confusion to clarity. It all starts with exploring how your relationship makes you FEEL; by asking yourself 2 simple questions.
Question # 1: What’s doesn’t “feel” good about my relationship experiences? (examine what’s not working. you can describe an entire scenario or just one word -feeling).
Write a list of those experiences. (do this without self-judgement or blame) When you only rely on holding your thoughts to memory; all of your experiences can run together and seemed blurred. However when you write things down, it will stimulate the clarity process.
Question # 2: What would you like to experience instead?
Write down a revised version of those experiences or feelings, you listed in response to question # 1. Put a positive spin on it; reflecting what you want to experience. (you can describe an entire scenario or just one-word feeling).
I want to encourage you to go a little further. Brainstorm and write a list of all the options and resources available to you; that will get you closer to what you want.
Now, you have a clear description of what you desire to experience in contrast to what you are actually experiencing. It’s up to you to dig deeper and determine the barrier(s) that’s keeping you stuck in an unsatisfying relationship; in order to remove them.
Clarity tip: Taking steps to close that gap; between what you don’t want to experience to what you hope for instead...That is your next step.
Whether it’s being honest with yourself, having a difficult conversation about what you’ve discovered or creating an exit strategy to release the relationship; always remember that you have options.
Take some time out to sit with how you’re feeling. You don’t have to figure out all the answers right now but the more you slow down and pay attention to how you’re feeling, the more authentic your life and your relationships will start to become.
Always know what you want & need from your relationship & question are you getting it.
If you need help with this process, take advantage of my Discovery Call as a resource to help you gain a new perspective on how to create a better feeling relationship experience; that’s right for you.
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With Love & Gratitude,